The Health Creation Principles - Mind


Principles for the MIND and our relationships with others: 

Principle 4
Stress

To have a bright, peaceful mind, free from fear and anxiety

Stress in the short term as you may already know can be highly productive.  It gives us the ability to work to a deadline, realise when we are in potential danger and do something about it.  We need to be able to realise priorities when they are occurring.  Eg: if the often used Sabre Toothed Tiger is looking at you and licking his lips going YUM! digesting your breakfast or warding off an infection is not your body's top priority - figuring out an “exit” strategy is.

However, 21st century living has many ongoing anxieties and worries.  Not so long ago we were in the middle of a global pandemic which caused much stress and strife for a variety of reasons.  There is a cost of living crisis going on as well so it’s quite a tough time presently.

Stress, anxiety and overwork very often go hand in hand and can then feed each other in an exhaustive loop.  If you are working with people who take on more and more without thinking about what it will cost them in relation to their health this section will be of such value to them to show them there is a different way.

People who have perfectionistic tendencies, workaholics and have high integrity but poor self-esteem can make ridiculous demands on themselves and again at the expense of the emotional bank balance.

If people's stamina is good, this cycle can keep going until eventually they may have a mental breakdown or physical illness.

Helping people identify they are in a stress spiral can be so rewarding, they are often open to the thoughts of being able to stop especially when someone professional points it out to them.  It's like you give them the permission to say Hello to their own needs.

We look at the two major components of stress:

External Stress:  comes from the environment and our reaction to it.  The can cover, work deadlines, commuting, living or working in a hostile environment, marriage, relationships, divorce, bereavement, redundancy, finances etc.

Self Stress: comes from our relationship with ourself.  This can mirror our early life experiences and upbringing.  eg. If you had a critical parent you will be very likely to criticise yourself mercilessly and push yourself harder to achieve the results the parent would have found acceptable.

Love and approval are also common things we search for when we may have not experienced it in our younger life.

Long term stress can make us less effective in our day to day living, both at home and at work which then increases our stress levels.

Again within the programme we have ways of identifying what the stress is and ways out of it.

Introduce new habits of peace and self-acceptance

Principle 5
Relationships

To enjoy healthy loving relationships with others

No man is an island - we all need some level of relationships with others however, we are not always in healthy, honourable loving ones.  Not everyone has received unconditional love or even knows what it is.  Does unconditional love mean allowing a child to have everything they want, do everything they want, without boundaries and teaching?

Love can be mixed up with Need for some people.  Desperation in keeping the person close to you can turn into manipulation, seduction, or even suicide attempts which often drives the person they love/need away even faster.

Connections to those from our past who are no long in our present lives can also leach our life force as we re-live them.

As Health Creation Mentors our role is to open the door here for people and allow them to look at their relationships.  This principle is very often one where we will signpost someone to additional help if it's needed such as counselling or spiritual healing as relationship issues can go back a long way into the past as well as having effects on the present.

Additionally you will learn to help them broaden the base from which they give and receive love, this gives them a better foundational base.

eg: 

  • join a personal development group to allow growth and understanding to occur. 

  • investing in other relationships not just the primary relationship/friendship

  • receiving good things for themselves, - building a therapeutic relationship with a good shiatsu or massage practitioner and experiencing self-care

Highlight the benefits of sharing and healthy loving within relationships

Principle 6
Emotions

To meet our emotional needs and express our feelings, free from fear

The advances in Mind-Body science has now clearly demonstrated the importance of expressing our feelings and getting our emotional needs met.  In holism we say, 

"What the mind represses the body expresses".

When people fail to express their needs, feelings of isolation, alienation and being cut off can occur.  Depression of our feelings is not the only thing that happens, depression of our bodys tissues and functioning also occurs making us more vulnerable to illness and have lower survival rates with serious illness such as heart disease and cancer.  So this principle can be like a detox for our emotions.

It can also be like a door opening for those who are "too nice" or who have the British tendency of the "stiff upper lip"

Too often people turn to food, alcohol, drugs, TV, overwork, gambling to cover their emotional needs.  As clients become more self-aware using the suggestions within the programme and from you as their mentor,  they learn to move themselves up the "ladder of emotions" described by author Jill Edwards.  Using self-help practices such as 

  • developing attitudes of peace,

  • gratitude journaling

  • loving kindness

  • creating beauty in a plant pot, crafts etc

can all bring us towards a more happy and joyful state.

Taking ownership of emotions is also looked at in this principle: "I feel angry/sad" rather than "you/he/she/they make me feel angry/sad".  This can make the world of difference to the listener and how they react.

Change may occur by addressing:

How emotions affect the body

Understanding our emotional needs

Help for depression

Recovering from trauma

Changing our emotional state

How we communicate

Looking at Non-Violent Communication 

Addressing addictions

Living from the heart

Uncover where repression occurs and let feelings be expressed